How to improve Quality-of-Life and retain perspective after hearing loss?
SayWhat? asked:
grew up with perfect hearing. No one in my family nor any of my friends were deaf. However, a brain tumor caused me lose ALL of my hearing in both ears 5 years ago;I am 30 and healthy now. I met my husband a little after losing my hearing.
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grew up with perfect hearing. No one in my family nor any of my friends were deaf. However, a brain tumor caused me lose ALL of my hearing in both ears 5 years ago;I am 30 and healthy now. I met my husband a little after losing my hearing.
Despite wonderful relationships with family, friends and husband-we are all taking ASL classes together-Even fun things lack luster these days.
For instance, I’ve just started my own catering company (no easy task for the newly deafened). I am tremendously proud of myself when difficult events come off successfully….but don’t enjoy it as much as I should. When you can’t hear what’s going on around you, it doesn’t feel “real.” EVERYTHING seems anti-climatic to me.
Also, my husband has pointed out that I frequently arrive at the wrong conclusion by reading his non-verbals. This makes me worry I have lost all perspective & freaks me out!
March 1st, 2009 at 6:26 pm
Hope these assist you. Good luck on your new company!!
March 4th, 2009 at 12:12 am
Well, I think taht your husband needs to be catering to YOU- telling you things the way YOU can understand them…its sounds like he’s wanting the opposite. SO forget about him for a minute….
Have you asked yourself what you would have rather lost? Your sight? An arm or a leg? The use of limbs? Your life due to a brain tumor!
You are actually VERY lucky. Think of how much harder you could have had it!
I think you need to be grateful that you didn; lose more, and remember that this happened to you for a reason.
Maybe you were meant to be an interpreter, or work with children who are going through the same thing…or Mothers whose children have lost their hearing.
Someone is going to need your wisdom, maybe someone needs you right now, but you can’t share what you’ve learned with anyone if you don’t come to grips with it yourself. It sucks, I’m sure, okay? BUT- you can’t dwell on that.
Use it to your advantage- like spending time at the local animal shelter- all those barking dogs wouldn;t bother you…
I am a musician, and if I had my hearing taken away, I would be upset…REALLY upset. Then I would try to replace my love of music with something else. something VISUALLY stimulating like getting into photography or taking art classes…I would also try new things that didn’t require hearing, but were majorly exciting ( to put the punch back into life) like hang gliding or riding a motorcycle.
You just need to find something new that yuo like that you don’t associate hearing with AT ALL.